Guest Post: Why love is hard to find?

Love is one of the hardest things to find because we constantly are looking for people to fit our criteria of a perfect man or a perfect woman. If we see nobody fits what we want, we lose hope and believe that love isn’t worth it. Believe it or not, sometimes you are hindering yourself from finding love because you are trying to find someone that doesn’t exist. So I’ve listed a few reasons why love is hard to find.

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Six reasons why you probably can’t find love:

You are constantly judging everybody that looks your way

He doesn’t make enough money. Her forehead is too big. I heard that she slept with everybody around the block. He’s teeth are crooked.  Because we are people, we automatically judge people before we even get the chance to talk to them.  This makes finding love hard because we have this belief that a person won’t fit our criteria of “the perfect person,” and we automatically exclude them out.  It’s okay to judge a person, but constantly judging them and not even giving them a chance. That’s pretty harsh.

You are kind of selfish

Sometimes it’s okay to be selfish. We need to be selfish in order to get what we want. But if you’re looking for love or a relationship, being selfish is not an option. In a relationship, it’s very important that we give a percentage of ourselves to another. If you can’t give that, maybe now isn’t the time you should be in a relationship.

You don’t have time

You’re busy with work, school, getting your life together; you might not have time to find someone to be in a relationship with. It’s might be better if you stay single because relationships can be stressful.

You are always complaining that you will never find a man or woman that will love you

Please shut up and get over yourself for a minute. There are seven billion people in the world, you just happen to look in the same spots for that same type of girl/boy that has hurt your feelings multiple times. So either stop complaining, try to find someone different or stay single for a while and evaluate why you might be making these choices.

You don’t know how to keep your hands to yourself

Hmm…Playa, Playa.  As a player, you don’t want love. You don’t even want to be monogamous, with just one person. You’re just down for the physical stuff. Majority of young adults and people in their twenties think like this. They believe love is not really a priority right now and fooling is the only thing they want.

You are a firm believer of the phrase “love don’t live here anymore”

Love has left the building and you believe love will never come back, or it’s not worth it anymore. Many people go through this and are afraid to love again. This is perfect time to reevaluate your life, and focus on you. Focusing on you helps you know what’s missing in your life and it can also help you believe in love again.

Why do you thing love is hard to find? Drop some comments below telling us why?

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